In "Ten Steps To An Ideal Relationship" I note that Step 7 is about: always looking after your health and well being.

Without a solid foundation of good health any relationship will flounder. Your health is your responsibility and not anyone elses.

This may seem like an obvious thing to do yet how often do you see individuals neglecting their health. Well just look around and I think you can find some examples.

What's even more interesting is that most of these people never consider the burden that that is going to have on their partner or their family. So now is that selfish or not?

Why do individuals find themselves behaving in such self sabotaging ways? Well we could go on for hours about this one but if I address it in within the context of the relationship we have such reasons as:

1. Some are unconsciously sabotaging their health so that they can get symapthy which they interpret as "love" from their partners.

2. Some are afraid of taking full responsibility for their part in the relationship and hence sink into an illness where they think they can hide.

3. Some use illness and ill health as a way to assert control over and/or manipulate their partner and in the choices that are made between them.

4. Some are unconsciously recreating a child-parent relationship in which they hope to be taken care of by their partner.

5. Some believe that it is not their responsibility and therefore never assume it.

An so on.

Well the conequences to a relationship can be devastating. Unfortunately if the partner is lacking in maturity they may not see how they are being used and may unwisely feel trapped by the guilt feelings that ensue when they think about confronting the "ill partner".

This then only leads to a dynamic in which both sink into a morass of negativity with each other and within themsleves.

In other words the illness spreads and ultimately kills them both.

If this is sounding familiar is this what you want?

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